MAS for Mid Career Professionals

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Lack of empathy towards people.

Agree. Such people often justify their actions by claiming they are maintaining high standards. This discloses a failure to understand what motivates employees to bring their best to work. Other than compensation and job satisfaction, a key factor is how nurturing the work environment is - on this, most peers are ok except those eager to climb and/outdo others in the process, so the quality of the higher ups you report to can make or break the deal!

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Lol welcome to MAS. There are many of such toxic people who are like that. Dunid quote names next time. The list is longer than just 1.

Ikr. Especially those who don't look like humans/have a cui face. Those are the most insecure and toxic.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Ikr. Especially those who don't look like humans/have a cui face. Those are the most insecure and toxic.

The toxic & insecure peeps I know look normal or even decent. That why it easy to be taken in by their appearances. Until they try to sabotage and after many times of giving them benefit of doubt, you realise their words & actions all crafted to polish their own image in front of their ROs.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

The toxic & insecure peeps I know look normal or even decent. That why it easy to be taken in by their appearances. Until they try to sabotage and after many times of giving them benefit of doubt, you realise their words & actions all crafted to polish their own image in front of their ROs.

It’s all about the polishing man. Always. Plain old vanilla polishing is not good enough though. Need to polish in all directions including all the various nooks and crannies. Then only will your RO feel shiok!

Originally Posted by Unregistered

The toxic & insecure peeps I know look normal or even decent. That why it easy to be taken in by their appearances. Until they try to sabotage and after many times of giving them benefit of doubt, you realise their words & actions all crafted to polish their own image in front of their ROs.

Wow, feel sorry for u then. Cui cannot, normal also cannot. Looks like its hard to tell who ur friends really are. Then again, MAS is full of such hypocritical people. Good luck, hope u enjoy your stay!

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Then again, MAS is full of such hypocritical people.

Actually with certain exceptions colleagues generally try to be helpful. The problem is that being Asian, in the office many are afraid to say no, speak up etc. So on thorny issues, when it is easier to go along with the position a superior wants, they will do so. This creates the appearance of a consensus from a number of people, when sometimes it’s merely an echo chamber of people acquiescing to one or two dominant voices.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Actually with certain exceptions colleagues generally try to be helpful. The problem is that being Asian, in the office many are afraid to say no, speak up etc. So on thorny issues, when it is easier to go along with the position a superior wants, they will do so. This creates the appearance of a consensus from a number of people, when sometimes it’s merely an echo chamber of people acquiescing to one or two dominant voices.

Then its not really what OP who said "toxic & insecure peeps I know look normal or even decent. That why it easy to be taken in by their appearances. Until they try to sabotage and after many times of giving them benefit of doubt, you realise their words & actions all crafted to polish their own image in front of their ROs" :S, and a few posters before....

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Then its not really what OP who said "toxic & insecure peeps I know look normal or even decent. That why it easy to be taken in by their appearances. Until they try to sabotage and after many times of giving them benefit of doubt, you realise their words & actions all crafted to polish their own image in front of their ROs" :S, and a few posters before....

It’s totally compatible. Earlier post took view “MAS is full of such hypocritical people”. I personally am not sure if it’s to such an extent. My own experience is most people seem ok. If it appears that people say one thing and do another, it could be they’re going along with what boss wants and are afraid to say what they really think. This is different level from the toxic and insecure kind. This type, I have met a couple of very bad examples. Some teams may have more, or some teams may have mostly nice people, so the experience depends on who you work with.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

The toxic & insecure peeps I know look normal or even decent. That why it easy to be taken in by their appearances. Until they try to sabotage and after many times of giving them benefit of doubt, you realise their words & actions all crafted to polish their own image in front of their ROs.

Some will purposely put fellow colleagues down to make it looks like they are very good.
Self-praising themselves and think they are doing a better job than the rest.
It isn't about teamwork or collaboration.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Some will purposely put fellow colleagues down to make it looks like they are very good.
Self-praising themselves and think they are doing a better job than the rest.
It isn't about teamwork or collaboration.

What’s worse is their ROs are listening to it and agree that these people are better and that’s where others get the fall while they get the spot light. I am losing morale at work already.