How much $ do you give your parents every month?

i don't give at all... as she has enough to rely on.

when i give, she worries for me and thought that i'm pretending to be loaded, and that in turn makes her unhappy, regardless what i say.

it's only after when i stopped giving her, she became happier and believe i am starting to save for my retirement.

well, works both ways by not giving the allowances.

i do give meal treats and presents all the time though.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

About 4 dollars each.

$4 for a packet of wanton mee a month for my mom and $4 for a bundle of hell notes for my dad

Are you feeding dogs or your mom? As I said, your mom is better off giving birth to char siew than to you...at least she can eat the char siew and no need to wait for a few slice of it in the wanton mee every month.....

Gave mom $1000 per month
Gave Dad a car 3 years ago ( car was relatively cheap then)
At least he got a car to drive for the next 7 years.

Dad is still working
mom is taking care of the kids.
Both parents no outstanding loan, just worry about utlities and car expenses.

Also, birthday presents, CNY 'bonus' and occasional holidays
Spending on parents, $20K to $30K per year ave.
Returns : priceless

Bought two condos for them to collect rent.
Hired two maids to take care of them.
Pay for all holidays, expenses and gifts.
Never ask for anything in return.
Shame on those who did.

[lazyplane]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Sadly, I am still partially supporting my children who are almost 30 yrs old even though I spent almost $1m on all their overseas education. Am setting up a trust fund to take care of them after I'm gone because they (especially one of them) are quite spendthrift and I'm afraid if they get all my money in a lump sum, they will squander it. When I think back, perhaps I should not have pampered them so much....

this is a true scenario for many singaporeans. being a parent myself,i am worried i may end up in a similiar situation. However, i was glad to hear a fellow more senior grandparent relate this insight to me that once u paid for their education, the rest is really up to them. as for the rest of your wealth, give to the next generation ie setup your trustfund to give to grandchildren instead. eg education cost of grandchildren.

also , if u have really alot do the warren buffet thing or the bill gates which to give their wealth to a cause. by doing so, u can still teach your children and your children childrens the values you hold dear.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Are you feeding dogs or your mom? As I said, your mom is better off giving birth to char siew than to you...at least she can eat the char siew and no need to wait for a few slice of it in the wanton mee every month.....

Be flexible in your thinking, self righteousness don't get you anywhere except on an ego trip. Not all mothers are good.

Originally Posted by lazyplane

this is a true scenario for many singaporeans. being a parent myself,i am worried i may end up in a similiar situation. However, i was glad to hear a fellow more senior grandparent relate this insight to me that once u paid for their education, the rest is really up to them. as for the rest of your wealth, give to the next generation ie setup your trustfund to give to grandchildren instead. eg education cost of grandchildren.

also , if u have really alot do the warren buffet thing or the bill gates which to give their wealth to a cause. by doing so, u can still teach your children and your children childrens the values you hold dear.

If you already have a lot, please snowball it and have more, trust funds and tons of related companies, multiple holding companies are good for diversification of taxation and legal risks. As for values to hold dear, I advocate always think of yourself first, and keep low profile to prevent parasites from leeching.

Politics (positions of power), money and health are all one's needs, love...filiai piety etc are nothing but concepts and emotions easy for manipulation.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

If you already have a lot, please snowball it and have more, trust funds and tons of related companies, multiple holding companies are good for diversification of taxation and legal risks. As for values to hold dear, I advocate always think of yourself first, and keep low profile to prevent parasites from leeching.

Politics (positions of power), money and health are all one's needs, love...filiai piety etc are nothing but concepts and emotions easy for manipulation.

Wow, you sure have a sad childhood to have those statements reflected in here. Are you emotionally or sexually abuse by your parents?

I think you need to see a doctor coz you sure got serious mental problem. I hope your kids (assuming you have, but then again think better not coz they will condemn you if u bring them to this world) will "treat" you well...

My hubby gives around SGD750 a mth to both parents whom are in Malaysia (Which translates to abt RM1800.00). They are still not satisfied and keep asking for more! I'm very fed up with their attitude.

I'm a stayhome mom, 2 school going kids. We still have to pay for our HDB, kids tuitions and enrichments and our own livelihood. Why are they so ungrateful? My FIL likes to gamble, thus treats us like ATM, ask us to send $$ when ever he needs. We had just settled a huge medical bil for him (he almost died) but he continues his gambling habits.

I really don't know what to do. I feel like elling them off but I don't want my hubby to be sanwiched btwn his wife and parents!

They have a younger son whom also contributes to them but not very regular.

What do you think I should do? Or am I over reacting? I'm worried for my kids education.. plus this has given a lot of stress to my hubby. He works 2 jobs to try to make more so that he can give them more! I'm afraid his health will be compromised. Why are they so inconsiderate?

Originally Posted by Unregistered

My hubby gives around SGD750 a mth to both parents whom are in Malaysia (Which translates to abt RM1800.00). They are still not satisfied and keep asking for more! I'm very fed up with their attitude.

I'm a stayhome mom, 2 school going kids. We still have to pay for our HDB, kids tuitions and enrichments and our own livelihood. Why are they so ungrateful? My FIL likes to gamble, thus treats us like ATM, ask us to send $$ when ever he needs. We had just settled a huge medical bil for him (he almost died) but he continues his gambling habits.

I really don't know what to do. I feel like elling them off but I don't want my hubby to be sanwiched btwn his wife and parents!

They have a younger son whom also contributes to them but not very regular.

What do you think I should do? Or am I over reacting? I'm worried for my kids education.. plus this has given a lot of stress to my hubby. He works 2 jobs to try to make more so that he can give them more! I'm afraid his health will be compromised. Why are they so inconsiderate?

I think your hubby has to tell them off. Giving them money to gamble is not filial, and to think that he still have 2 kids to support. Unless he is earning lots of money else, put the money to good use on your kids and family. Sad to say, some parents are selfish, and never think for their children, anyone with dignity will never want to depend on someone else unless they have poor health or a good reason.