i don't give at all... as she has enough to rely on.

when i give, she worries for me and thought that i'm pretending to be loaded, and that in turn makes her unhappy, regardless what i say.

it's only after when i stopped giving her, she became happier and believe i am starting to save for my retirement.

well, works both ways by not giving the allowances.

i do give meal treats and presents all the time though.