I'm such a failure. Anyone can help me?

Dont give up in your pursuit towards success and happiness but give up on the gal, cut your losses fast.

Be focused, be diligent and be kind.

Work hard - most people are successful not because they are smart, but because they are smart and work hard, from school all the way in their career or business.

You are still young. Ask yourself honestly what you want in life. Decide decisively the areas of work you want to do and go for it.

I worked hard too in my life and happy for it.

All the best and dont give up !!!!!!!!

[JL84]

Greetings everybody,

This is JL84. It's been several months since I posted this thread. I would like to thank everyone for the encouragement.

I'm now working towards being a realtor currently, and is now taking a course. I hope everything will be smooth sailing!

As for the relationship, I guess time heals afterall. After all the two cents worth from friends and forumers, I guess I'm not really focused in life.

I was a greedy person who want to achieve a lot of things at the same time but I realised it would be so much easier if I chose to accomplish one thing at a time.

I hope this thread will still go on and serve as a reminder or motivation booster for like-minded individuals.

I sincerely wish those who want to give up on life not to do so.

If God gives you lemons, make lemonade.

Once again, thanks everybody.

Originally Posted by JL84

Greetings everybody,

This is JL84. It's been several months since I posted this thread. I would like to thank everyone for the encouragement.

I'm now working towards being a realtor currently, and is now taking a course. I hope everything will be smooth sailing!

As for the relationship, I guess time heals afterall. After all the two cents worth from friends and forumers, I guess I'm not really focused in life.

I was a greedy person who want to achieve a lot of things at the same time but I realised it would be so much easier if I chose to accomplish one thing at a time.

I hope this thread will still go on and serve as a reminder or motivation booster for like-minded individuals.

I sincerely wish those who want to give up on life not to do so.

If God gives you lemons, make lemonade.

Once again, thanks everybody.

be an agent? you really think agent make big bucks???

Originally Posted by JL84

I'm 27 and I graduated from NYP with a diploma in Electronics, Computers and Communications Engineering.

After my NS, I studied a BsC Degree in Economics and Finance for 4 years (But I kept failing and still have 1 more year to go)

I was in an online relationship for 2 years and spent almost everynight with this Chinese girl. My grades deterioated as I thought she is the girl of my life.

We are supposed to meet this month which is my birthday after 2.5years of chatting online. My dreams and hopes are dashed when I discovered she have been two-timing me and cohabiting with a guy for some time.

All my efforts of getting her back are futile. I hated myself not going to meet her earlier and also found it a blessing in disguise because that showed what kind of character she is.

One of a friend introduced me to be a Fiancial Advisor in a certain life assurance company. I passed M5, but failed M9. This terribly gave me a morale drop in life. I was at a point on the verge of suicide if not for the utmost support and concern of my friends and family.

My CV only stated one job which I worked probably 1+year ago as a IT guy in a company for several months short stint.

I think I'm lost in life. Others 27 year old are earning big bucks, driving big car but I'm just a nobody, a failure.

I'm not asking for directions, I am just not definite. I don't know if being FA is really what I want. I don't see myself servicing others for the many years down the road. Like everyone, I want a lot of money during the shortest period of time to repay my father who has been shouldering me with the education assistance these years. I'm such a letdown.

Anyone can help? I know I must help myself first.

Regards,
JL

hey JL84,

Cheer up! You are not alone.

I'm the same batch as you but in a different polytechnic.
i guess my predicament is similar or maybe worse than yours.
My closest friends are getting married and their topic of conversation is usually about buying HDB house. My friends are driving cars and riding bike, and i still take crowded public transport. I'm still single and i felt left out.

Tried to go out with a few girls but it seems that they are not interested with a guy without a car.

I was unemployed for almost 3 months after i left my last employment.

There's time when i feel like giving up. Seriously.

Then i encountered this video. > LOOK AT YOURSELF AFTER WATCHING THIS.mp4 - YouTube

I thought to myself, if this guy can be positive and jovial without arms and legs, then why a normal guy like me with almost perfect health can't be that happy.

Then a job offer came and i decided to take it up even though the pay is quite low (2k per month). In addition, i decided to enroll myself to private U and take a part time degree.

I'm currently, in my first 2 months of part time study and I'll start my new job at the end of this month.

I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason.

I'm still looking for a girlfriend and i hope she's around the corner. I can't force a girl to like me, the best i can do is to behave like a gentlemen and show respect, sincerity and honesty to the girl and hope for the best.

So, don't give up. Make your dream a reality.

Your life is like a car and you are the driver. You can either let your hand off the steering wheel and hope for the best or you can take control of the steering wheel and guide it to safety and steer to its desired destination. You decide.

All the best and good luck.

Jbl84, how are things for you now?

[JL84]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Jbl84, how are things for you now?

It's been more than 7 years since I visited this forum. I happened to log in my old e-mail account and came back here.

Update:

I dropped out from my Uni after I passed my RES course. (Something I regret till now)

I guessed I'm just a mediocre agent after 6 years, when times are low, I do ad-hoc security jobs sometimes to supplement my expenses.

I just got ditched again.(Same real life PRC though)

Almost got into depression 5 years back. Guess leopard doesn't change its spot ya?

Now I just want to focus on my IT business. Hopefully, the next time I post here, all is well and good.

Till then, tata byebye!

Originally Posted by JL84

It's been more than 7 years since I visited this forum. I happened to log in my old e-mail account and came back here.

Update:

I dropped out from my Uni after I passed my RES course. (Something I regret till now)

I guessed I'm just a mediocre agent after 6 years, when times are low, I do ad-hoc security jobs sometimes to supplement my expenses.

I just got ditched again.(Same real life PRC though)

Almost got into depression 5 years back. Guess leopard doesn't change its spot ya?

Now I just want to focus on my IT business. Hopefully, the next time I post here, all is well and good.

Till then, tata byebye!

surprised to see your response. wish you luck