Is it ok to turn down an accepted verbal offer?

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Originally Posted by lmaohaha

i will feel happy for her if she made the best and right choice.the last thing i ever want is when both parties are unhappy wif each other at the start of the agreement

Good point! Better change her mind quick rather than later when you have kids!

If it is a general sort of position then going back on your word has less repercussions. But if it is a niche industry where the players are few and you might actually cross paths with your erstwhile employers then think hard. You would be known as a not-very-reliable person who doesn't stick to his/her word.

Be rational. Don't waste your time working in a company because you feel obliged to do so.

There will be caveats and conditiosn in the appointment letter as well, such as 2 week termination before confirmation, etc...
So, they know they cannot keep you.
So, the best position is really to call the HR and explain in a very nice way why...NEVER use $$ as a reason even if it is!