Is this toxic work culture?

Originally Posted by Unregistered

if this is what u think and dun wish to work that way, then u dun fit into public service. to each his own.

Bro. This board member full of woman... Is female beauty industry...
What public service.

You think everyone is servant brah

Young lady, welcome to the real world. The world doesn't revolve around your emotional tenderness. In the workplace, we all start as a nobody and people will crush our pride and hurt our feelings at certain points. If they do so after we made a mistakes, there is no argument. We did wrong, we have no right to complain.

Almost everyone you see working today has gone through that and hardened up if they did not enter the workforce already hardened from childhood.

At the end of the day, no one forced you to work where you do. It's actually a choice you made to be there. You can choose a new place to be, you can choose to stay, you can choose to be jobless. Every place will have pros and cons, nice people and monsters.

If you find it unbearable here, all that can be said is perhaps that it is no one's fault but that you are not a good mutual fit.

If this happens everywhere you go though, then you should really think about whether you are the one who is the problem.

All the best.

-old uncle

[Safeworkplacespls]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

So... to be clear:

(1) You were late by 25 mins, which is a substantial amount of time.

(2) You were scolded when you came in late, and according to your story you were not scolded again.

And you want to to quit over this...?

Yes to (1), no to (2), I was indeed scolded again with a wagging finger towards me while my direct superior cast her eyes downwards silently.

[Safeworkplacespls]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

You were late by 25 minutes, scolded once and you are asking whether you should quit? Are you serious?

I'm also troubled by the other things you are saying... the slightly misogynistic sarcastic reference to women being treated like "esteemed beings", and how were you being used to "show her prowess"? Was anyone else there when you were scolded? Also, as to "her time needs to be respected" -> Yes. It does. Your time is worthy of respect, and so is hers. If she could be on time, why couldn't you? Did you text or email her in advance to let her know you would be late?

Seriously ah this post is so childish you need to grow up

I meant esteemed beings as in the board members ranks. I agree that they deserve high level respect but I don’t understand why there is this element of almost servitude-like submission to them. Perhaps it’s the PR-ness.

I totally agree that her time deserves respect and I did apologise, twice and even did a slight bow. I just think like if the raised voice and finger wagging behaviour was really necessary.

[Safeworkplacespls]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Young lady, welcome to the real world. The world doesn't revolve around your emotional tenderness. In the workplace, we all start as a nobody and people will crush our pride and hurt our feelings at certain points. If they do so after we made a mistakes, there is no argument. We did wrong, we have no right to complain.

Almost everyone you see working today has gone through that and hardened up if they did not enter the workforce already hardened from childhood.

At the end of the day, no one forced you to work where you do. It's actually a choice you made to be there. You can choose a new place to be, you can choose to stay, you can choose to be jobless. Every place will have pros and cons, nice people and monsters.

If you find it unbearable here, all that can be said is perhaps that it is no one's fault but that you are not a good mutual fit.

If this happens everywhere you go though, then you should really think about whether you are the one who is the problem.

All the best.

-old uncle

Old uncle, thanks for you well-written reply. I made a industry change to this because I wanted to do more for society, and I like where I am at. I think I have to just grow a thicker skin, at the end of the day, the bills will still come, and the economy isn’t wonderful for a job switch either.

I am the quiet, non-confrontational sort so idk perhaps easier to be pushed around.

[Safeworkplacespls]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Yes it is toxic, idk how to advice you on whether to resign or not. (Personally I will try to let such superiors not affect me mentally until I really buey tahan). I feel they just want to feel good about their authoritative power in the end...

Most importantly I will take it as a learning lesson to not be like one of them in the future and to always deal with compassion even to my interns

Yes I agree, to take it as a lesson learnt and to know not to behave like that.

Originally Posted by Safeworkplacespls

Yes I agree, to take it as a lesson learnt and to know not to behave like that.

I think the old auntie board member want to flex dominance on the young pretty OP