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30-01-2018 05:54 PM
ComeToYourSenses
Noone can help you

Quote:
Originally Posted by Devjyoti View Post
Background

Age 31+,
Education: Economics graduate from India, Masters in Accounting & Finance from Australia, CPA in Singapore
Job History: 7 years in Singapore, worked in two of the big four followed by job in a bank as product controller/risk
Job Status: Job is moving to Pune & Poland
Salary: Little less than 100k per annum, has been stagnant for two years
Marital Status: Married, wife, age 27 +, is a homemaker & unlikely to get a job
Social Life: Friends make 2.5 times what I make,
Residency Status: Here on EP, PR application rejected thrice, most friends' PR


Should I move back to India in this scenario?
you expect total strangers on the internet to guide you?

be a man. Only you can stand for yourself. If you don't respect yourself, noone else will.

The kingdom of god is within you. So is the kingdom of Satan.
26-06-2016 11:44 PM
Dibya
you are a disgrace

I suggest you do not wash your personal linen in this forum. See your wife and return to India.
09-02-2016 10:10 PM
Unregistered
whatz latest

Quote:
Originally Posted by worthless View Post
Devjoti, are you still in singaporre with the same wife?
i piti you
Hi,
are you still in Singapore? did you become a father or has your wife left you?
17-05-2015 10:40 PM
worthless
there is one born every minute

Devjoti, are you still in singaporre with the same wife?
i piti you
17-05-2015 09:48 PM
Unregistered I can't believe I actually bothered to read through this entire thread.

This thread cannot be anything more than one big epic TROLL!!! It simply cannot be anything other than that.
13-05-2015 12:36 PM
Jennifer
confused fellow

Bro,

Looks like you are really confused. im kinda confused reading your post.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Devjyoti View Post
Background

Age 31+,
Education: Economics graduate from India, Masters in Accounting & Finance from Australia, CPA in Singapore

a. you are masters in accounting from Oz and CPA in Singapore. Why look for MBA now? mAKES no sens.

Job History: 7 years in Singapore, worked in two of the big four followed by job in a bank as product controller/risk

b. youve worked for 2 of the big4. can't you find a job there again? risk is a hot area of work

Marital Status: Married, wife, age 27 +, is a homemaker & unlikely to get a job
Residency Status: Here on EP, PR application rejected thrice...
There are reasonable job opportunities in India for both me & my wife.

c. wife is homemaker and unlikely to get a job yet you want her to find a job and proceed to do an MBA? Sori, your posts mentions that much

most friends' PR

d. Most friends PR - what diff doz that mek

...but hope to get some better paying job....

e. hope to get some better paying job - "some better paying job" - learn to identify what you are looking for in life rather than ask for opinien from complete strangerrs

...I'll be left stagnating even more after the MBA.

f. Looking at your post, you will stagnate in life regardless of what you do

...I had hoped that my wife could perhaps find a job and remain behind in Singapore with that job...

g. thot you said that your wife is unlikely to find a job in Singapore

...my wife now says its time we start trying for a baby, as she wants to be a mother before 30, and I am old enough as some of my friends' are already fathers....

...Her parents too are very keen on a grandchild, her old grandparents too are anxious to be great grandparents....

h. not sure if this this is the place to discuss your family plans

...when a 26 year old woman marries a 30 year old man, she assumes he's completed his education.........

i. sez who?

............that if such a man is stagnating, he should move to another city or country instead.

j. some people will stagnate everywhere...
28-03-2014 04:46 PM
arranged_marriage
what is an arranged marriage?

Just what is an arranged marriage? I thought a man of 30 should have the right to choose who he wants to marry. What exactly do the guy and the girl discuss and disclose before their parents "arrange" their marriage?
I thought a marriage is a marriage, arranged or not.
Correct me if I am wrong. Arranged marriages are from the stone age.
27-03-2014 01:34 PM
aspenx Hi TS,

You have more than just a few problems. I'll just highlight three:

1. You do not know what you really want.
NOBODY here can help you with that. Sorry but no, we're not sorry.

2. You do not know how to achieve what you want.
You "want" a higher pay, don't want to work hard for it (ie. management consulting) and expect your (next?) employer to pay you more just because you have an MBA? You couldn't get into INSEAD with a 680 for GMAT and your fantastic academic results and experience? Something is really wrong and you need proper help.

3. You care too much what others think.
If you can't change this, you could divorce your wife and her parents (I'm sure some of your successful friends would advise this too) so you'll at least reduce a heck load of negativity.

If you want the easy way out, you could just go back to India! Be grateful you have such a fallback plan. Us Singaporeans don't.
26-03-2014 05:55 PM
lazyplane Honestly, the internet is not a forum for you get good answers.

Having said that, this is what i will do

a. Talk to senior people I respect and is close enough to understand my family context. not from direct family ie dad/mom as this is too close to heart to be clear.

b. Draw up a clear plan of what you define as being successful after all this.

c. Ask your wife to do the same for b.

d. Sit down with wife to get alignment of both your plans. Marriage takes both hands to clap. And this is the start of that long journey. To be successful in negotiation, i will bring her to a nice place which i know she will enjoy before i broach the topic. If she is too heated up, stay calm. One party has to learn to be the adult in the relationship.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Devjyoti View Post
Background

Age 31+,
Education: Economics graduate from India, Masters in Accounting & Finance from Australia, CPA in Singapore
Job History: 7 years in Singapore, worked in two of the big four followed by job in a bank as product controller/risk
Job Status: Job is moving to Pune & Poland
Salary: Little less than 100k per annum, has been stagnant for two years
Marital Status: Married, wife, age 27 +, is a homemaker & unlikely to get a job
Social Life: Friends make 2.5 times what I make,
Residency Status: Here on EP, PR application rejected thrice, most friends' PR

Family Background in India: Very well off family, dad owns multi million dollar property in India which he rents out, dad is very keen I return to India, I'm the only child. Mom wants me to do what I like

Wife is also an only child, she too comes from a reasonably well off background. She and her parents too are keen that I move back to India.

There are reasonable job opportunities in India for both me & my wife.

I want to continue living in Singapore, as my salary is stagnating, I hope to go to do an MBA from a top B school (this was a long cherished dream of mine). After my MBA, I don't want to do consulting as there's no life, but hope to get some better paying job.

Wife and wife's father(he's quite successful in the corporate world in India) feel I'll be too old as an MBA graduate at 34-34 besides all my friends' would have moved up even more in those two years and I'll be left stagnating even more after the MBA.

I had hoped that my wife could perhaps find a job and remain behind in Singapore with that job, so that I can come back & job hunt on her Dependent Pass, she refuses to do this, her parents got furious with this suggestion, they said that like all Indian men, I should've first completed my education before getting married, and if I had plans to do this MBA, I should've married at 35 post this MBA.

I hadn't mentioned to my wife that I had plans to do an MBA before I married her, we had an arranged marriage, the topic of my friends' MBA & her cousins' MBA had come up in a few conversations, I hadn't mentioned my own plans of the MBA then.

We have completed one year of marriage, my wife now says its time we start trying for a baby, as she wants to be a mother before 30, and I am old enough as some of my friends' are already fathers.

I feel I just can't afford a child yet and don't know if/when I will be able to afford one in Singapore. I can easily afford one in India if I lived with my parents.

Her parents too are very keen on a grandchild, her old grandparents too are anxious to be great grandparents.

We had heated arguments on this topic, I had told her that she should've asked me if I want to do an MBA, also she should have told me if she wanted a child early, she says that when a 26 year old woman marries a 30 year old man, she assumes he's completed his education (she says like all my friends' have completed their education) & will settle into family life in a few years, rather than now do a full time MBA, & that if such a man is stagnating, he should move to another city or country instead.

Should I move back to India in this scenario?
26-03-2014 05:29 PM
reformed
applying for PR is not a crime

Hi, Applying for PR three times and facing a rejecting is not the same as a criminal conviction or jail term. Why are your wife and her parents treating you like a criminal? Looks like the problem lies with you and you need to take a good, hard look at yourself.
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