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12-06-2021 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted by JL84 View Post
It's been more than 7 years since I visited this forum. I happened to log in my old e-mail account and came back here.

Update:

I dropped out from my Uni after I passed my RES course. (Something I regret till now)

I guessed I'm just a mediocre agent after 6 years, when times are low, I do ad-hoc security jobs sometimes to supplement my expenses.

I just got ditched again.(Same real life PRC though)

Almost got into depression 5 years back. Guess leopard doesn't change its spot ya?

Now I just want to focus on my IT business. Hopefully, the next time I post here, all is well and good.

Till then, tata byebye!
surprised to see your response. wish you luck
10-06-2021 07:22 PM
kira656 I think that maybe in this situation you need to start communiction. Recently I broke up with my girlfriend and I needed to somehow console myself. It's good that a friend recommended the dating site try this to me. I first registered, then by posting a profile, the site offered me to get acquainted with several girls. Of course, I agreed and started communicating with them. They cheered me up a lot and the longing was gone.
05-10-2018 04:10 PM
JL84
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Jbl84, how are things for you now?
It's been more than 7 years since I visited this forum. I happened to log in my old e-mail account and came back here.

Update:

I dropped out from my Uni after I passed my RES course. (Something I regret till now)

I guessed I'm just a mediocre agent after 6 years, when times are low, I do ad-hoc security jobs sometimes to supplement my expenses.

I just got ditched again.(Same real life PRC though)

Almost got into depression 5 years back. Guess leopard doesn't change its spot ya?

Now I just want to focus on my IT business. Hopefully, the next time I post here, all is well and good.

Till then, tata byebye!
06-06-2018 12:37 AM
Unregistered Jbl84, how are things for you now?
01-09-2011 09:54 PM
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you are NOT alone

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Originally Posted by JL84 View Post
I'm 27 and I graduated from NYP with a diploma in Electronics, Computers and Communications Engineering.

After my NS, I studied a BsC Degree in Economics and Finance for 4 years (But I kept failing and still have 1 more year to go)

I was in an online relationship for 2 years and spent almost everynight with this Chinese girl. My grades deterioated as I thought she is the girl of my life.

We are supposed to meet this month which is my birthday after 2.5years of chatting online. My dreams and hopes are dashed when I discovered she have been two-timing me and cohabiting with a guy for some time.

All my efforts of getting her back are futile. I hated myself not going to meet her earlier and also found it a blessing in disguise because that showed what kind of character she is.

One of a friend introduced me to be a Fiancial Advisor in a certain life assurance company. I passed M5, but failed M9. This terribly gave me a morale drop in life. I was at a point on the verge of suicide if not for the utmost support and concern of my friends and family.

My CV only stated one job which I worked probably 1+year ago as a IT guy in a company for several months short stint.

I think I'm lost in life. Others 27 year old are earning big bucks, driving big car but I'm just a nobody, a failure.

I'm not asking for directions, I am just not definite. I don't know if being FA is really what I want. I don't see myself servicing others for the many years down the road. Like everyone, I want a lot of money during the shortest period of time to repay my father who has been shouldering me with the education assistance these years. I'm such a letdown.

Anyone can help? I know I must help myself first.

Regards,
JL
hey JL84,

Cheer up! You are not alone.

I'm the same batch as you but in a different polytechnic.
i guess my predicament is similar or maybe worse than yours.
My closest friends are getting married and their topic of conversation is usually about buying HDB house. My friends are driving cars and riding bike, and i still take crowded public transport. I'm still single and i felt left out.

Tried to go out with a few girls but it seems that they are not interested with a guy without a car.

I was unemployed for almost 3 months after i left my last employment.

There's time when i feel like giving up. Seriously.

Then i encountered this video. > LOOK AT YOURSELF AFTER WATCHING THIS.mp4 - YouTube

I thought to myself, if this guy can be positive and jovial without arms and legs, then why a normal guy like me with almost perfect health can't be that happy.

Then a job offer came and i decided to take it up even though the pay is quite low (2k per month). In addition, i decided to enroll myself to private U and take a part time degree.

I'm currently, in my first 2 months of part time study and I'll start my new job at the end of this month.

I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason.

I'm still looking for a girlfriend and i hope she's around the corner. I can't force a girl to like me, the best i can do is to behave like a gentlemen and show respect, sincerity and honesty to the girl and hope for the best.

So, don't give up. Make your dream a reality.

Your life is like a car and you are the driver. You can either let your hand off the steering wheel and hope for the best or you can take control of the steering wheel and guide it to safety and steer to its desired destination. You decide.

All the best and good luck.
01-09-2011 02:48 PM
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Greetings everybody,

This is JL84. It's been several months since I posted this thread. I would like to thank everyone for the encouragement.

I'm now working towards being a realtor currently, and is now taking a course. I hope everything will be smooth sailing!

As for the relationship, I guess time heals afterall. After all the two cents worth from friends and forumers, I guess I'm not really focused in life.

I was a greedy person who want to achieve a lot of things at the same time but I realised it would be so much easier if I chose to accomplish one thing at a time.

I hope this thread will still go on and serve as a reminder or motivation booster for like-minded individuals.

I sincerely wish those who want to give up on life not to do so.

If God gives you lemons, make lemonade.

Once again, thanks everybody.
be an agent? you really think agent make big bucks???
01-09-2011 10:08 AM
JL84 Greetings everybody,

This is JL84. It's been several months since I posted this thread. I would like to thank everyone for the encouragement.

I'm now working towards being a realtor currently, and is now taking a course. I hope everything will be smooth sailing!

As for the relationship, I guess time heals afterall. After all the two cents worth from friends and forumers, I guess I'm not really focused in life.

I was a greedy person who want to achieve a lot of things at the same time but I realised it would be so much easier if I chose to accomplish one thing at a time.

I hope this thread will still go on and serve as a reminder or motivation booster for like-minded individuals.

I sincerely wish those who want to give up on life not to do so.

If God gives you lemons, make lemonade.

Once again, thanks everybody.
13-08-2011 09:49 AM
Unregistered Dont give up in your pursuit towards success and happiness but give up on the gal, cut your losses fast.

Be focused, be diligent and be kind.

Work hard - most people are successful not because they are smart, but because they are smart and work hard, from school all the way in their career or business.

You are still young. Ask yourself honestly what you want in life. Decide decisively the areas of work you want to do and go for it.

I worked hard too in my life and happy for it.

All the best and dont give up !!!!!!!!
13-08-2011 03:56 AM
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I can only offer my own experience.

I was 25 when I graduated from NUS Arts and Soc Sciences. I then spent the two years doing absolutely nothing. This might be hard to believe but time flies when you're playing video games, clubbing, watching live sports and running the odd errand for my increasingly sad parents.

But i was increasingly discouraged as I saw my peers beginning to establish their careers as doctors, lawyers, etc. (Disclaimer: I spent 4 good teenage years studying in Bishan) And it was becoming increasingly hard to explain to potential employers about the gap since graduation. This became increasingly depressing.

At 27, I was totally lost and even entertained suicidal thoughts. But i discovered a Masters degree course that piqued my interest. I was very very lucky to secure a scholarship from the host country as well. So I left Sg to go overseas in 4 years ago.

Some months before departure, I met my then girlfriend. I told her that we should both give this long-distance relationship game a try and she agreed. I guess i was again very lucky as this long distance online relationship worked out - she is now my fiance.

I told myself that I'll be a new person in the UK , and that I'll start working harder than I ever did before (which was not hard!). One thing led to another, and I'm now working in a challenging and satisfying profession.

Late last year, the UK changed its visa regulations (unlike Sg) to make it harder for immigrants to stay. I was a bit sad, as everything changed within a day and I've to return to Sg. Thankfully, the small company i worked for quickly promoted me to ensure that my salary met the new requirements.

Life is inevitably full of challenges, but don't let your past define you. Anything is possible if you don't give up and resolve to turn your life around. Hard work is free!
Great that you didn't give up and things have work out for you. Life is so short and one should try to make the most out of each day.

I was working in UK too and getting those immigration stuffs done especially for the whole family is really hard.
23-07-2011 12:05 PM
Abdullah set a goal and take small little concrete steps.. achieve little goals that will eventually help u achieve your main goal. as u go along, your confidence will grow.

cheers...
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