How much are you earning per annum?

You sound like you have the typical younger child syndrome. Do you still feel shadowed by your two older brothers success and now desperately trying to prove yourself?

Seems like you are v insecure. You feel left out. Hence, all the attention seeking actions described below.

Perhaps your posting of salary details here is just another way to get attention? Are you looking for reaffirmation? Wishing someone to tell you that you are very successful despite your mediocre history.

Your parents don't think you are failure. Parents love is the most unconditional love you are probably going to find on this earth. It is largely your own perception and your own feeling of inadequacy.


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After PSLE, i went to Raffles like my 2 older brothers, but unlike my 2 older brothers, during Sec 4 + JC1 & JC2, i was busy chasing pussy. I got caught stealing, made a SCGS girl pregnant, almost expelled from ACJC for fighting...

I got only 3 A's compared to my brothers who both for 9 A1 for O-levels.
I got CDDE for my A-levels compared to my brothers who got AAAA 1S paper distinction and AAAA 2S paper distinction.

I couldn't get into the local universities even after appeal, and my 2 older brothers were in the Dean's list for NUS and NTU respectively.

In my family's eyes, i'm a total failure. I still feel that way sometimes.[/QUOTE]

Mid-life crisis,

Sorry to hear about your predicament. Yes, life is not easy but that's life.
But don't lose hope. Take each day as a blessing, we are all warriors of life.
We work for those who we love, we feed them, clothe them, house them.
This is a noble deed as long as you earn an honest living.

It is risky for you to move given your age. Age discrimination is a reality, just face it.
Maybe you should keep your life more interesting by engaging in other activities such as
social work or take up a hobby. You can also learn new skills like investing which will
benefit you if you are good.

Go for a long holiday to recharge yourself and come back refreshed.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

You sound like you have the typical younger child syndrome. Do you still feel shadowed by your two older brothers success and now desperately trying to prove yourself?

Seems like you are v insecure. You feel left out. Hence, all the attention seeking actions described below.

Perhaps your posting of salary details here is just another way to get attention? Are you looking for reaffirmation? Wishing someone to tell you that you are very successful despite your mediocre history.

Your parents don't think you are failure. Parents love is the most unconditional love you are probably going to find on this earth. It is largely your own perception and your own feeling of inadequacy.

Perhaps judging others anonymously from 'unregistered' is being even more insecure?

He's just sharing, no harm no foul. I enjoyed reading it.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Why quit when you are already in your 40s? How long have you been with the bank?

Why not wait / volunteer for retrenchment? My colleague was in the bank for over 20 years. She told my boss she wanted to quit and my boss was kind enough to arrange for her to be retrenched instead.

I have asked my company to retrench me for the last 2 years. They just refuse to. Are they waiting for me to get frustrated and quit so that they can save on the retrenchment benefits? I counted and I can get around $150K.

Originally Posted by Mid life crisis

Dear experts,

I am in my mid-40s and now in a mid-life crisis.
I work as a manager in the back office of a financial institution.
I work well with others but due to nasty politics, I'm unable to climb higher.

I feel very down, everyday going to the office, knowing that I am not realizing my full potential. I feel like quitting, but with family obligations (mortgage, kids, parents, etc), I can't do that.

Changing to a new company is also not easy in this environment. I'm thinking of joining the teaching profession or perhaps become a real estate agent or financial planner.

Can any experts here help advise? Currently I'm earning $110k per annum. Would these jobs give me that much?

What would you do if you're in my situation?

I am in your situation. I just look forward to my paycheck at the end of the month. I am thinking of quitting too but when I think of the paycheck, I just endure.

private banker
US bank
$720K

Why do parents want their kids to grow up to b lawyers or doctors?

Why not architects, accoutants or bankers?!?

Btw how much an architect makes p.a.

Because back in their generation, Lawyers and Doctors made the most money.

They still make alot of money, just that now other professions make equally alot.

My JC class (triple science) produced 7 doctors. I went banking route. Parents initially thought I was a failure untill they realised banking paid me about double what I could have got pursuing the medicine path.

Now, my 2nd brother is also pursuing banking (instead of medicine). Next generation, all parents will wish their kids to be bankers, lawyers, doctors.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Why do parents want their kids to grow up to b lawyers or doctors?

Why not architects, accoutants or bankers?!?

Btw how much an architect makes p.a.

So many people here earn so much.

Not surprising why property prices is rising.

Dude,

Dont be so attracted to higher position and pay.
It may not bring you good. Higher pay comes with higher responsibilities and more stress.
You might die young due to stress. Be happy with what you have. No need to be too ambitious.

You might want to focus on building your wealth instead of your career. This can make you happier in the long run. To build wealth, you should consider invsting in private property which can give you passive income.

I am a nobody in my company but I own several private properties, including a big terrace house. I am smart but dont like the office politics so I focus on wealth accumulation and charity work.

Originally Posted by Mid life crisis

Dear experts,

I am in my mid-40s and now in a mid-life crisis.
I work as a manager in the back office of a financial institution.
I work well with others but due to nasty politics, I'm unable to climb higher.

I feel very down, everyday going to the office, knowing that I am not realizing my full potential. I feel like quitting, but with family obligations (mortgage, kids, parents, etc), I can't do that.

Changing to a new company is also not easy in this environment. I'm thinking of joining the teaching profession or perhaps become a real estate agent or financial planner.

Can any experts here help advise? Currently I'm earning $110k per annum. Would these jobs give me that much?

What would you do if you're in my situation?