Advice needed from everyone (Lonely single & Retirement)

Originally Posted by lazyplane

I'm quite sure most people around your age that are single do think like you.
The social media in your generation has changed people - people "interactions" . The virtual /social media world is the "real" world for most in your generation.

Gaming as you described,seem to be just a way for you to get connected and relax and have fun. There is nothing wrong to it but you lose "learning" how to connect with people without that PC/tablet/social media that can be equally fruitful.

For eg, how do you share a "wink" in real life ? how do you poke a friend when you are bored ?

On your questions of the future , you obviously can have the financial means to do gaming for the rest of your life. But in doing so, you exchange this for something else.

You may not sense it now , but in 5-10 years, many of your friends will be married and sharing about those experiences on their fb, twitter ,etc.
they will also drop out from hanging out etc. the "sensing" you have now that you may be "missing" out something will be stronger then.

Only you then can answer if you still think this way when that happens.
and most importantly, will you regret the decisions you make now ?

He does not have friends and hence he will not miss anything in future.

Hi FineStone324,

I do believe it is up to oneself to decide how he wants to live his life. Before I advise you on anything, allow me to provide you a few considerations of the choices you decide

1) Retirement - I am not too sure why you decided to retire at 32 years old. How long have you worked, did you earned enough to cover for the rest of your life? Did you take into considerations of medical bills/ sudden accidents during your old age?

2) Gaming as past time & the cost to continue - I will say gaming is not cheap. The price for the components for a good gaming computer is expensive. Even if you play low-graphics games, within 5 to 7 years surly some parts of your computer will fail, and you need replacement cost. In addition, how long do you plan to game per day? Did you take into considerations of electricity bills/ air-con/ fan? Do you have enough money to continue gaming till old age?

3) Have you consider the cost of living in Singapore? Food and travel expenses will really kill your wallet. Do you plan to not eat healthy just to save money? Once again, did you save enough to just live?



Okay, now allow me to give you some advise.

1) First, really think about what you want in life. If you not sure, then imagine you are at your death-bed awaiting to die in 1 hour. Will you regret anything you didn't do?

2) Any regrets you have think of, write them down first. Next think of what is necessary to achieve/ sustain your goals, and write them down too. Don't worry this is not the 'usual' encouragement talk. Just read on.

3) There are two paths here: A) Absorb and remember what is necessary, then find ways to just do it. B) Look at your goals and possible regrets, if you really think the efforts and pains are not worth it, then just forget your goals and remember this is the kind of life you choose so that you will not regret in the next decade or when you are old.


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Now, let me rant and scold you. If you already decided on your path A / B above, then dont read this. If you still unsure of life, just read.


One thing I picked up from you post was that in fact you would want to have a companion. If you choose to retire and shut yourself at home, do you really think there is any chance to meet any people? Even if you do meet you dream girl, perhaps through volunteer activities or gaming, without money to build and support a family, do you think she will even consider you?

When a girl decide on her lifetime partner, it would be like giving her life into your hands. She would have no more means to earn money, and would use her free time to support children/ house duties. If you don't even have a job to earn income and secure a sense of stability in her life, no one in the right mind would consider you.

So, if you really want to have a companion to spend life with, you need three things really. 1) A meeting opportunity. 2) Your source of income (not necessary to be extremely high, even if it is small, so long it can support a family). 3) Your personality.

Do you think you have any opportunities for meeting people and build connections after you choose to retire? In addition, you will no longer have any source of income. Worst, after long period of unemployment, it would be so much harder to find any job. It would be like a No Turning Back decision. Lastly, your attitude and personality of giving up life, caring about ownself, and just doing what you yourself like, do you think anyone will want to be with this kind of person?

If you have money, I will have no issue in the kind of life you choose. If you have no money, how do you expect your life to turn out by making this decision when your life is still only 1/3 through.

Even toilet cleaners also have to work to earn money just to live. Do you think they like cleaning other people ****? Even animals have to fight and work hard to find food. Humans have to work to earn money to eat and live.

I am sure 10 years down the road, you will surly your retirement choice. It is really a no turning back decision. The longer period of unemployment, the harder it is to get a job.

So just find a job, part-time or full-time, or even low salary ones. Just to get money, just to eat, just to live. Only when you are able to take care of yourself, then you can consider to take care of others, e.g. your future lifetime partner.

[temp111]

What is your current salary?

Originally Posted by Unregistered--

Hi FineStone324,

I do believe it is up to oneself to decide how he wants to live his life. Before I advise you on anything, allow me to provide you a few considerations of the choices you decide

1) Retirement - I am not too sure why you decided to retire at 32 years old. How long have you worked, did you earned enough to cover for the rest of your life? Did you take into considerations of medical bills/ sudden accidents during your old age?

2) Gaming as past time & the cost to continue - I will say gaming is not cheap. The price for the components for a good gaming computer is expensive. Even if you play low-graphics games, within 5 to 7 years surly some parts of your computer will fail, and you need replacement cost. In addition, how long do you plan to game per day? Did you take into considerations of electricity bills/ air-con/ fan? Do you have enough money to continue gaming till old age?

3) Have you consider the cost of living in Singapore? Food and travel expenses will really kill your wallet. Do you plan to not eat healthy just to save money? Once again, did you save enough to just live?



Okay, now allow me to give you some advise.

1) First, really think about what you want in life. If you not sure, then imagine you are at your death-bed awaiting to die in 1 hour. Will you regret anything you didn't do?

2) Any regrets you have think of, write them down first. Next think of what is necessary to achieve/ sustain your goals, and write them down too. Don't worry this is not the 'usual' encouragement talk. Just read on.

3) There are two paths here: A) Absorb and remember what is necessary, then find ways to just do it. B) Look at your goals and possible regrets, if you really think the efforts and pains are not worth it, then just forget your goals and remember this is the kind of life you choose so that you will not regret in the next decade or when you are old.


==========================

Now, let me rant and scold you. If you already decided on your path A / B above, then dont read this. If you still unsure of life, just read.


One thing I picked up from you post was that in fact you would want to have a companion. If you choose to retire and shut yourself at home, do you really think there is any chance to meet any people? Even if you do meet you dream girl, perhaps through volunteer activities or gaming, without money to build and support a family, do you think she will even consider you?

When a girl decide on her lifetime partner, it would be like giving her life into your hands. She would have no more means to earn money, and would use her free time to support children/ house duties. If you don't even have a job to earn income and secure a sense of stability in her life, no one in the right mind would consider you.

So, if you really want to have a companion to spend life with, you need three things really. 1) A meeting opportunity. 2) Your source of income (not necessary to be extremely high, even if it is small, so long it can support a family). 3) Your personality.

Do you think you have any opportunities for meeting people and build connections after you choose to retire? In addition, you will no longer have any source of income. Worst, after long period of unemployment, it would be so much harder to find any job. It would be like a No Turning Back decision. Lastly, your attitude and personality of giving up life, caring about ownself, and just doing what you yourself like, do you think anyone will want to be with this kind of person?

If you have money, I will have no issue in the kind of life you choose. If you have no money, how do you expect your life to turn out by making this decision when your life is still only 1/3 through.

Even toilet cleaners also have to work to earn money just to live. Do you think they like cleaning other people ****? Even animals have to fight and work hard to find food. Humans have to work to earn money to eat and live.

I am sure 10 years down the road, you will surly your retirement choice. It is really a no turning back decision. The longer period of unemployment, the harder it is to get a job.

So just find a job, part-time or full-time, or even low salary ones. Just to get money, just to eat, just to live. Only when you are able to take care of yourself, then you can consider to take care of others, e.g. your future lifetime partner.

?????????????????????? this is crap.

just spend some money on the girls in geylang weekly, and go to Phuket/Bangkok, pick up a girl from the bar and try to start a relationship. that's your retirement.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

?????????????????????? this is crap.

just spend some money on the girls in geylang weekly, and go to Phuket/Bangkok, pick up a girl from the bar and try to start a relationship. that's your retirement.

Talking from experience? How much will a girl cost in geylang? Can ask her to come to my house?

[temp111]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Talking from experience? How much will a girl cost in geylang? Can ask her to come to my house?

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Originally Posted by temp111

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nicely done. don't listen to all the crap about the meaning of life. meaning of life is the moment just before you experience a gush of sensation so strong, that all the hard work you've done in your life, seems to fade away with the gushing tide.

Originally Posted by FineStone324

Hi all, thanks for coming into this thread. I would like to seek from all of you some advice on my situation: I'm single (male, 32 yo), and there's a possibility that I will remain single for life. I would like to plan (and seek advice) on what I could do to lead a fulfilling/enjoyable single life.

I've thought about going to events, volunteering, etc. However, I'm not sure if I will be very receptive to that as I'm not an extrovert. One of the ideas that I've came up with is to play computer games when I'm old. While this may sound immature/weird, it really is one of the most viable option that I could think off at this point. My reasons/assumptions are as follows:

1) I like playing computer games. Specifically, RPG (e.g. WOW, Diablo, Ragnarok, etc.) appeals to me. It can be fun to make online friends too.
2) Online games are cheap as long as you don't splurge on them. This means that my living expenses can remain low. That is, I may be able to save and invest sufficiently, such that my passive income can cover my total living expenses (including utilities, daily expenses, etc.).

I was wondering if anyone out there has the same thought as me? Would it be possible that I could still like gaming as much, and play them all-day at 55 years old till my very last day? If it's unlikely to happen, why? Is it because I won't be as agile when I'm old? Or is it because I'll simply lose my interest for gaming when I'm old?

I will really appreciate all advice given. Thank you.

Correct me if I am wrong, but I am having a few impressions from what you have written:
1) You are not set on being single yet, but think there is a high possibility of being single?
2) You think that it is more "normal" to be doing voluntary work and events during retirement but you cannot be sure that you can fit in or if you would like to try something new?
3) One of your ideas is gaming, but that does not sound like your passion either?

This is my humble opinion, but there seems to be a set mindset on what is considered "normal" to you, perhaps not being single, retiring being an active volunteer and etc. If this is true for you, you would need to weigh this influence on yourself. Because if you cannot get over this mindset, it is highly likely you will regret what you are considering to be "not normal" now. If you already know that this mindset is a huge influence, do something about it. Do not let what you think your character is like now stop you from trying. There are even some voluntary work or events that does not involve socialising, and you can try exploring those for a more comfortable start. Better still, pull a friend along.

About gaming or what interests you, are you sure it will last till the end of your life? If you only have one idea in mind - gaming, are you sure when you get old and all your senses start to fail you, that you can still continue on that one idea till you die? Of course you said that is only one of your ideas, then, are you going to expand thinking about other ideas?

Time is your greatest asset, and perhaps also your greatest fear.

You don't necessarily need a girlfriend, but you NEED friends, you NEED social contact. I say this as a fellow introvert and gamer. The fact you are asking this question means you are cognizant of the fact that down the road the option you mentioned may be one that you will regret.

Hi TS,

When i retire, my plan will be to survive on $20 a day.

I will bet $5 on each chinese chess game or dum game at the void deck against another retiree.

Continue until all is lost or win $10 additional.

If I win, I will drink beer for the day. If i lose, it shall be plain water.

Hope you get inspirations from my retirement plan