Taking significant pay cut for work-life balance

Originally Posted by laguna

知足常乐，无需强求

those ppl may not as happy as u

How many years were you with the garmen laguna?

[laguna]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

How many years were you with the garmen laguna?

25 years...

Originally Posted by laguna

知足常乐，无需强求

those ppl may not as happy as u

It's easier said than done. When my kids were young, I told myself I wouldn't place too much emphasis on paper chase. I had wanted to them to have a carefree childhood, just do enough to be above average.

A couple of years later, I realized I was too naive. I believe my kids have the intelligence, but even so, to be "above average" in school requires concerted effort from everyone in the family!

It's hard.

[laguna]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

It's easier said than done. When my kids were young, I told myself I wouldn't place too much emphasis on paper chase. I had wanted to them to have a carefree childhood, just do enough to be above average.

A couple of years later, I realized I was too naive. I believe my kids have the intelligence, but even so, to be "above average" in school requires concerted effort from everyone in the family!

It's hard.

wrong strategy.

For upbring of children, I sent them to the best business college in the world, let them make the best $ and they can retire young and rich.

比上不足，比下有余
is average, will forever be average and be bullied in working life

Originally Posted by Unregistered

It's easier said than done. When my kids were young, I told myself I wouldn't place too much emphasis on paper chase. I had wanted to them to have a carefree childhood, just do enough to be above average.

Unless the parents are well-heeled and the children's inheritance is substantial, those parents who want their children to have a carefree childhood are simply irresponsible and selfish.

These parents know that next time when their children end up picking up old cardboard boxes along the road (another form of paper chase), they would not be around to watch.

Originally Posted by laguna

wrong strategy.

For upbring of children, I sent them to the best business college in the world, let them make the best $ and they can retire young and rich.

比上不足，比下有余
is average, will forever be average and be bullied in working life

In the first place they will have to go through the local school system and do well enough to go to the best IP schools or JCs, then do well enough in SAT to get into the "best business college in the world". (btw, which college is that? )

I see often people these days are outwardly very capable and resourceful but inwardly, they do not know what they want. I believe in asking yourself one serious question: how much happier would I be with more money (and while considering the sacrifices you have to make in order to earn them)? I tend to think that if more people take the time to ask themselves honestly and develop a balanced perspective, there will be alot less unhappy individuals among us.
How much work-life balance is required? It's really up to you. But the worst thing to do is simply to have a herd mentality and compare yourself to peers. Simply put, they are not the ones living your life, you are. The fact that people are talking more and more about the subject of work-life balance simply means that there is a lack of it. Conformity and discontentment eludes hapiness and the desire to seek it. Don't you wonder why at 40s or even 50s, people are still stuck talking about upgrading houses, car etc. when these are supposed to be at the lowest hierarchy of our needs? Why can't people move on to self-actualization projects at such an age when they already started their prime years? I suspect the answer is discontented and it is so sad because when they reach 60s, they would have already missed out.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I see often people these days are outwardly very capable and resourceful but inwardly, they do not know what they want. I believe in asking yourself one serious question: how much happier would I be with more money (and while considering the sacrifices you have to make in order to earn them)? I tend to think that if more people take the time to ask themselves honestly and develop a balanced perspective, there will be alot less unhappy individuals among us.
How much work-life balance is required? It's really up to you. But the worst thing to do is simply to have a herd mentality and compare yourself to peers. Simply put, they are not the ones living your life, you are. The fact that people are talking more and more about the subject of work-life balance simply means that there is a lack of it. Conformity and discontentment eludes hapiness and the desire to seek it. Don't you wonder why at 40s or even 50s, people are still stuck talking about upgrading houses, car etc. when these are supposed to be at the lowest hierarchy of our needs? Why can't people move on to self-actualization projects at such an age when they already started their prime years? I suspect the answer is discontented and it is so sad because when they reach 60s, they would have already missed out.

What are examples of "self actualization projects". Is starting a business considered one?

It depends on what kind of business. Some business are simply for money making no matter how you see it eg. Trading. Starting a business can be self actualizing if you believe it will help you to develop and achieve your ability or potential. However, if the motivation is purely just to earn a living or become rich from your business, then it is not. That said, it is usually something besides your primary source of income. Examples, community work, contributing your ideas or experience to organisational groups that shares your passion, help people such as the less fortunate etc. Hope this helps. * * *

Originally Posted by Unregistered

What are examples of "self actualization projects". Is starting a business considered one?

I love technology but hate to run technology projects. after doing other peoples project for years, I stopped. the reason is because it really killed my interest.

now I am in a job that allowed me to do just about any technology project I want and call it my work.

I guess that is an example of self actualization. there's a caveat in this story though. my job has limited career advancement prospect. I will need to fuel my need for a career with just interest and interest alone.

now, do you want to be me?