I am mid 30s. Me under 7k, wife under 9k.

-give parents each side under $500 due to them all much richer than us and only request token
-small executive condo
-cat A car
-NO CHILD

We survive by eating cheaply or at restaurants when on deals and buying things on offer.

My parents were extremely generous too (gave a few hundred grand ang pow when married). After buying home and stuff we find surviving tough with our income since we try to save and invest some of it too.

So honestly speaking, from my experience anyways, $7k+7k (assuming your wife too) not numerically possible to survive independently, especially with a child.