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Old 26-06-2011, 12:21 AM
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Default 17years your senior

Originally Posted by JL84 View Post
I'm 27 and I graduated from NYP with a diploma in Electronics, Computers and Communications Engineering.

After my NS, I studied a BsC Degree in Economics and Finance for 4 years (But I kept failing and still have 1 more year to go)

I was in an online relationship for 2 years and spent almost everynight with this Chinese girl. My grades deterioated as I thought she is the girl of my life.

We are supposed to meet this month which is my birthday after 2.5years of chatting online. My dreams and hopes are dashed when I discovered she have been two-timing me and cohabiting with a guy for some time.

All my efforts of getting her back are futile. I hated myself not going to meet her earlier and also found it a blessing in disguise because that showed what kind of character she is.

One of a friend introduced me to be a Fiancial Advisor in a certain life assurance company. I passed M5, but failed M9. This terribly gave me a morale drop in life. I was at a point on the verge of suicide if not for the utmost support and concern of my friends and family.

My CV only stated one job which I worked probably 1+year ago as a IT guy in a company for several months short stint.

I think I'm lost in life. Others 27 year old are earning big bucks, driving big car but I'm just a nobody, a failure.

I'm not asking for directions, I am just not definite. I don't know if being FA is really what I want. I don't see myself servicing others for the many years down the road. Like everyone, I want a lot of money during the shortest period of time to repay my father who has been shouldering me with the education assistance these years. I'm such a letdown.

Anyone can help? I know I must help myself first.

Your Online 'Relationship'
Why would you want to 'get her back' when she was never yours to begin with? Online friendship carries very little responsibilities unlike a real physical one. You should re-focus your energy in building real friendships and hopefully meet someone you love and can love you in return.

Your Career & Aspiration
Not many 27 year olds are earning big bucks and driving big cars. Most are also working hard for a living or to pursue their dreams. The important thing is set realistic goals, work towards it and be flexible enough to lower/adjust your aspirations to changing circumstances in your life but not be too fickle and kept changing your course of action.

Facing up to reality
Some people I know kept dropping out from one course just to start another as a sub-concious response to aviod facing up to reality and 'buy' time. If I am your parent, I'll be happier seing you taking small concrete steps to build your career and improve your self than to keep dreaming of earning big bucks quickily to repay me.

You are definitely not a failure and there are many people who are in worse off situation than you. I am also facing some difficulties in life at the moment and can understand how depressing thoughts can really pull one down. Take heart, the best is yet to be. And there's a Chinese proverb : "feng shui lun liu zhuan". The good times are ahead.
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